..........a "Karen" on facebook. And it's always the same gang, Black women*. I am a lot of things, but I am not a "Karen". Why do some Black women seem to think that all middle-class white women must be "Karen's"?
(*Note: Before you call me racist, remember there is only one race, the Human race; everything else is culture, upbringing and personal decisions. Let's just get that out of the way.)
Talk about jumping to conclusions and lumping us all into one group! Does this label come from envy? Frankly, I'd call it prejudice and the odious Meghan Markle is a master at being both a Black woman, trashing the White Monarchy, and a wanna-be "Karen" at the same time.
I do know at least one "Karen". She and her husband used to invite us up to their beautiful island, Half Crown, on 'Lac des Trente et un Milles" in Quebec every summer for a beautiful week. This "Karen", I'll call her "J", was so perfect every female guest had to hide her light -- however dim -- under a bushel. (They only invited us because B had been president of the GF&GC and her husband, then the president, wanted to pick his brain. Hence, she had to tolerate me.)
When helping out in the kitchen, I was careful not to refer to myself as a sous-chef, or G-d forbid an actual chef! No, I called myself a scullery maid and was permitted to do the dishes -- and only the dishes. Every offer I extended to make something, like fritters for example (which anyone can make from anything), was rebuffed in case they were too good. We were permitted to make Indian because that was cultural and charming and therefore not threatening.
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| Me in the kitchen at Half Crown. |
That was the only holiday during which I lost weight. J was always on some fad or other. One year it was nothing white (Note: don't bother with black rice), another it was no carbs. You name it, J globed onto it.
Once I had to travel back to Ottawa mid-week and her husband allowed me to pilot one of his boats solo off the island -- something he apparently never let J do. As I was zooming off, a fellow guest, watching from the window, said in admiration, "Is there nothing that woman can't do?!"
She also fancied herself a brilliant painter and one afternoon sat in the living room painting. Intrigued, I came over to admire her work. What did I see? Gobsmacked, I saw she was doing paint-by-numbers!!!!
For some reason, she stopped inviting us. Was it the boat ride? The fritters? My sense of style? Who knows, but I will give that place one huge credit: It was where I first started back swimming seriously.
Sitting there one afternoon, sipping a cocktail, I saw two other women guests swimming around the island. Naturally, my competitiveness took over and, having been a serious swimmer in my youth, decided I had to get in that water and do the same. It was about one km around and I began to do it every day. When I returned to the city, I joined the local pool and have been pounding the lanes ever since. I did the math and have since swum about 8,500 kms. (Imagine how fat I'd be if I hadn't!)
So, thank you, J. You did me a favour -- even though you didn't mean to.







