Harmless flirtation

That's what I'd call it, but a director of administration in a B.C. law firm decided it was sexual harassment and sued one of the lawyers in her firm.  It happened at a Christmas party -- I mean, where else?-- and Ashley Chand has effectively ruined her career.  Not his, hers.  Forever.

Ah, the innocent office Christmas party, where booze flows and tongues loosened.

Apparently the lawyer told Ms. Chand she was attractive and bright asked if she'd considering dating him, were she working for another firm.  When she objected and officially complained, the firm offered her an apology and money if she signed a non-disclosure agreement (NDA).  She refused and immediately sued the guy and the firm.

How dumb.

She has kissed her career goodbye, along with any hope of getting a job in any other firm in the province.  She has applied to many law firms, but her reputation precedes her.  No one will hire her for fear of being accused of sexual harassment while casually bantering at the water cooler.

Frankly, back in my glorious salad days, when a male colleague said I was bright and attractive, I was flattered.  Whatever happened to flirting and flattery?  Sadly, it's been ruined by woke "feminists".  And what are they getting out of their behaviour? 

Nothing.

I was subjected to real sexual harassment and criminal assault by a Minister of the Crown in Trudeau senior's cabinet back in 1976.  That was a case where I should have sued, but didn't.  I needed the job, I was vulnerable, so I stayed quiet, did nothing and kept my job.    

In this case, instead of laughing off the compliment delivered in public, which it definitely was, she dug in and sued.  Could it be her culture influenced her?  She is East Indian and perhaps prone to interpreting everything as an affront, or racism.  I'd wager that played a part in her aggressive position.

Girls, if anyone compliments you, accept it gracefully.  Don't sue.  It'll be the end of your career.  If you are raped, however, as I was, you will win, but it will still be the end of your career.

Sad, but true.  If you sue over a compliment, you will dissuade women who are actually raped from bringing charges.  That's the problem.

Complicated, but true.